All You Mothers

Happy Mother’s Day! What an emotional fraught holiday this is. I know people who lost their moms- recently or years ago, lost children, can’t have children they wanted, are estranged from their moms or children, can’t be with their children, all of that. Also, my heart goes out to those poor mothers in Nigeria. I can’t imagine what they are going through. Then there is just the usual parenting angst that seems to come with the holiday. Mother’s Day is supposed to be a day to honour and feel honoured but when I read some of the Facebook posts on this day (and others), I feel like I don’t measure up.

I know I’ve made mistakes. Those are the ones that make me feel like I don’t know what I’m doing and keep me awake at night. My daughter is at an age now where I can say to her, “Parents are people and people make mistakes, but we try to do our best.” She’s also at an age where she can tell me she thinks my rules are stupid. She gets it honestly though. She is as dramatic as I was at that age. I’ll even say, “I don’t know where she gets it,” when inside my head a voice whispers, “Meeeeeeeeeeeee!”

I don’t think that it helps that mothers are especially hard on each other. I get an extra dose since I have an only child. I unfollowed, and then blocked, a Mommy blogger on Twitter after she made a snide remark about parents of only children. Even though it made me angry, I did not engage in a Twitter war with this person. Nobody got time for that. I guess I’m getting better. I realized I didn’t have to listen to what someone else says and that their opinion is their opinion. If someone questions your parenting, it’s probably more about that person than you.

Then I think of my mother and what a jerk I was to her sometimes growing up. How did she not push me off a cliff?

Maybe just for today, let’s not be so hard on ourselves and each other. And for the record, I’m proud of my girl. She’s quite a personality.

So, after all that emotional unloading, I’ll tell you about my Mother’s Day. I bought a Fitbit (a device that counts your daily steps) for myself this week. I feel like I can’t sit down. I could be getting more steps in! My best days are my run days. I took one today. It was overcast and there was a breeze, just the weather I like to run in, and the air smelled like the ocean. Now I’m going to read more of The Three by Susan Lotz and have supper with my mom and family.

run and read

13 comments:

  1. Yeah, I don't get why women are so hard on each other. The world would be a better place if we would be supportive. Happy Mother's Day!

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  2. I really want a fitbit!

    Happy Mother's Day to you :-)

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    1. I'm liking mine. I'm a little obsessed with it at the moment.

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  3. Let's not be so hard on ourselves...YES! Such a great post on a day like today! I loved it! Happy Mother's Day to you :)

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  4. I love this post. I had some rough spots this past weekend. Mainly, due to the Teen being a little $jit. I agree, women can be very hard on each other. I don't hang out with many women because of it. Oh, and I heard that 52 of those missing Nigeria girls escaped. I was very happy to hear that this morning.

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    1. I hope those girls get back to their families quick.

      I'm really looking forward to the teen years. ;)

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  5. I wish women would not be so hard on each other, much less themselves.

    I couldn't be with my mom (too far away), and that made me sad. I did call her though. She kept busy and she liked the gift and card we sent. I told her how much I loved her and appreciated her. I'm a terrible daughter--I don't call or write nearly enough--don't invite her over for visits as much as I should--but she loves me still. And here I am, being hard on myself. LOL

    Happy belated Mother's Day, Chris!

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    1. Don't be hard on yourself, remember? I bet your mom appreciated all that you did. :)

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  6. My jaw dropped at this: "a Mommy blogger on Twitter after she made a snide remark about parents of only children."

    WTH??? Amen for not being hard on ourselves or each other. Everybody's gotta walk their own walk.

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    1. Yep, I was like, "you run a parenting blog??" I just walked away from that one.

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  7. Ugh, it depresses me to see so many people talking down mothers who do X or mothers who do Y. Like there aren't already enough people out there telling women they are doing everything wrong!

    To hell with those people, and Happy (belated) Mother's Day! :p

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